Dimensionsofgold

I have never been in love with Nigeria and for the longest time i always wanted to travel out. I didn't even care what country,as long as it wasn't Nigeria. Overtime our relationship grew worse and it extended to my personal life. By personal life,i meant the people i dated. The people i felt i was in love with. They had this typical Nigerian mindset i couldn't deal with  and the cycle of breakups made me conclude just maybe..i'm meant to be with a white guy. The relationship became so toxic that i had to become the bigger person and end it so i broke up with Nigeria. Even though i ended the relationship i still felt Nigeria failed me, i felt betrayed. I didn't choose to be in this relationship, Nigeria choose me via my parent  so obviously our love was and had to be transactional: i f you meet my needs then i love you, if you don't then i don't. So when the opportunity for me to travel out came i took it without hesitation even when i didn't particularl...

"You are under arrest for the murder of  Sifon. Anything you say can and will be used against you in the court of law. You are allowed to call your lawyer, but if you don't have any, one would be provided for you". Do you  understand? Do you understand? yes Honestly,I don't think I did understand my fate. I don't know what day it is today but hey, at least I'm still on earth not on the road to hell,  that was what I was thinking as I joined my cell mates to perform our routine labor. They are quite loud and I would never understand how they derived joy from being in prison( how would I?) I was still going to be sentenced to death cause I kid you not,there is a whole hierarchy here,from the commander to the nobody, then me. Pretty face  Pretty face yea,that's me. They called me pretty face and it just made me remember those  good old days when I kept chanting; I'm more than a pretty face,I'm intelligent and hardworking.If ...

Remembering how I met my husband will always funny. After going through what seemed like the worst breakup of my life,I had zeroed my mind towards finding love or even getting married.There is no place in the bible that says it is compulsory to get married plus the event that led to the last breakup was a clear sign from God that marriage wasn't a part of my destiny. Prior to this,I had never believed you could meet someone and fall in love with the person within months or even the blasphemy "love at first sight''.I don't want to go into details on how I felt about that statement.I mean it is possible to like the person and be infatuated or get lustful but loving the person I never thought that was possible plus the way "I love you" has been thrown on  my face from people whose action proved the only liked me!!.No,you cannot love anyone in months.The only person who did that is in Heaven. Excuse me. I barely even know myself for 24 years who ar...

Has there ever been a more depressing story about the relationship between men and women than the tale of Adam? yes; Samson and Delilah and just like Adams story the focal point is on Eve.  Almost like from the beginning of time man(male and female) were created to blame. The direct instruction wasn't given to Eve,it was a hand me down information from Adam  and hand me down information are always filtered. Yes,Eve knew the fruit wasn't supposed to be eaten but Eve never fully understood how severe that instruction was. The only person that understood it properly was Adam. I'm in no way trying to justify Eve's action. For what its worth, even if she didn't fully understand the consequences bottom line there was an instruction the least she could have done was obey. Eve was deceived Eve ate the fruit Adam wasn't deceived Adam was given a fruit Adam ate without pressure from Eve but when God  was walking in the Garden looking for the people He ...

There is one thing I live by or at least I feel like I do,  for you to be in my life you need to be the very best.  This means I need to be the best to attract the best.  Occasionally I slip, occasionally I settle, and like every one of us we have replaced best for good so I'm constantly torn between moving on to another person and replacing the same person with a different name and the cycle continues. Well, I'm among the 99% of humans with the talent of making bad decisions. Whew, I would have probably dated the whole world when I'm done replacing but good thing I realized not so early enough though, there is a difference between good and best. You can't be preparing yourself for the best and settling for good. Yoo, I'm still Dimensionsofgold and I'm here to let you know, You don't need someone who is good for you, you need someone who is best for you. Well, this applies to those working on being the best. If you are working on being the best, ...

"I do not take you to be my lawful wedded husband I promise not to have and hold you  from this day forward, till death do us part" The transcript for this new age or woke generation however you want to describe it doesn't have "honoring vows" as part of its guidelines.  Our vocabulary seem to have a lot of breakups and divorce instead of commitments and it makes me question the  need of making vows if we won't at least try to make it last forever. What's the need of saying ''I do'' when what you are really saying is "I do only when it's smooth" We view relationships as something we can easily get out from and as much as we should have the liberty to get out of a relationship when it doesn't align with our purpose anymore we seem to have taken that liberty too far. Each one of us has a different definition of love and when we come together it becomes a clash of the titans. God knowing this would happen gave us a clea...