How I Met My Husband

Remembering how I met my husband will always funny.
After going through what seemed like the worst breakup of my life,I had zeroed my mind towards finding love or even getting married.There is no place in the bible that says it is compulsory to get married plus the event that led to the last breakup was a clear sign from God that marriage wasn't a part of my destiny.

Prior to this,I had never believed you could meet someone and fall in love with the person within months or even the blasphemy "love at first sight''.I don't want to go into details on how I felt about that statement.I mean it is possible to like the person and be infatuated or get lustful but loving the person I never thought that was possible plus the way "I love you" has been thrown on  my face from people whose action proved the only liked me!!.No,you cannot love anyone in months.The only person who did that is in Heaven. Excuse me.
I barely even know myself for 24 years who are you to know me in months when you did not create me.
Mbanu,its not my portion.

If I'm not assigned extra roles at work or getting information from newsletters I don't know when/how I subscribed to, then my email is the meaning of good for nothing.I don't open my emails at least that way,I can look my boss straight in the eye and say I didn't see your message.I still do the work though.

This day,I carelessly opened a new chapter in my life while trying to determine how long I will live if I submit my resignation letter.If I knew my life will take a 720 degrees turn after opening an email,maybe I would have opened it with caution.

"Will you marry me?"
The audacity..I said out loud.
Then I busted out in tears.
So I had become so unlucky that even stray messages disrespected me.
In a thousand years I would never believe my husband will casually propose to me via email.
Email o.
I started laughing so hard that I replied, yes.

Yes to what and who? lets be honest it could have been an it.Who knows?

Yes to a Will you?.

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Now,you would think that was an insane thing to do but you singles can't even judge me.
The universe threw a question,I was the only one awake.I had to answer.
Either ways some one else would have.
Did I consider myself lucky to be awake?
Your fantasies!
My dear,I didn't consider anything because when the next email that read "lets meet in an hour at the center of the city" came in .I was already fully dressed and my survival rate was my least problem.Suddenly,the strength I needed for work had come in premium.

Was I desperate?
Was I really answering the universe?
Was I suicidal?
Did my life have no meaning to me?
What if he was handicapped?
What if this was a setup?
What if someone traced and found out my grandfather was a rich man and decided to assassinate me?

I just believed the one who created me knew the beginning from the end and this day was meant to happen.I had no choice than to play in my life story,it was meant to happen after all.

Then it happened;my life sequel.

He tapped me
I stood for a minute and murmured what felt like my last prayer.
"God,if it's possible let this cup not be taken away from me"( i had already drank halfway the cup,why should it be taken away from me?)
so that means God,my will not yours will be done.
Then I turned.
I could have sworn he was fully tattooed but as time went on that was just an illusion.
We looked at each other,I don't know what he was thinking.
 I was just proud to see the person who will make me see my creator, at least I did something good while on earth.

I'm Rotimi..he said
Dexim  I replied

I can't really say if he held my hand because when he came closer I could feel the angels ministering to me.
I think he did because I remember my mum's numerous prayers slamming at me
the most vivid was "may your feet not take you to doom and may you not tread on evil paths"
My feet took me to doom already so its kinda late for the prayer and I wasn't just treading on evil path,I was holding evil path.

How did he know my city?
How long has he been watching me?
Whats the worst that can go wrong again?
Nothing.
I strongly believed this was my last day as I followed him without asking any question to what seemed like a planned dinner.
We ordered for our food and I paid for mine,(I don't know why I did that).
I guess I wanted to feel like he hadn't stripped me of all my power.
Some how a conversation started,we got to know ourselves and I found out the message was a mistake or at least that's what I wanted to believe.
I mean,what's worst than believing a serial killer dressed like a modest man is right in front of you?

How he proposed;Rotimi

Dexim and I dated for about 9 months and that was what I would consider my most intentional life.I became authentic because of her,I stopped so many habits and tried to be the best version of my self with each day.

We had our own share of disagreement but ultimately we found our way out.

Everything we did helped us grow and discover our purpose.I was grateful I made a mistake with the email because she understood me in ways that I doubt any other person would.

Talk about made for me!

We grew together and helped each other become the best versions of our selves so it wasn't a surprise when she got promoted.

Excited,I decided to throw her a surprise party and a proposal at once.

I was so nervous that each time I felt my pocket,I honestly believed the ring had disappeared so I had to propose fast so it doesn't actually varnish for real.

So I decided to give a speech

 "I am so grateful to God for making us see this day and witness this amazing lady make history and as God has made history with you I want to be the next"

He drew closer and said;

Dexim,
you have made me a better person and each day I feel I have really gotten the favour God spoke about when you find a good wife.You are the one that understands me more than any other person.

With you I feel safe.

I see my future with you because it was love at first sight and I want you to be the first person i see every morning.

He knelt down and concluded with;

Will you please help me seal my favour with God and be my wife?

I knelt down too,

everyone screamed and I made the best decision of my life ever:

I said no.

How can understanding him be a reason he wanted us to get married?

Understanding someone is not spiritual.It is not magic.With patience,determination and consistency any one can achieve it.

I don't feel safe with you even if its 9 month.
Everyday I feel this cup i drank will spill out from my intestines and drown me.
Safe and you is far from being in the same sentence.

I don't believe in love at first sight and I have never thought of the future.

When it comes to you,we can only think of the present.

Hours later,when everyone felt I was the devil;how inconsiderate?

It was my party that was ruined yet somehow I wasn't the victim,this photographer who had sweated himself to capture every detail came to say his congratulation and goodbye.His name was Jecil.

Meanwhile,I can't really remember what happened to Rotimi again.

Brides Speech

Pastor;Do you take Jecil to be your lawful wedded husband,in sickness and in heath till death do you part?

Me;

I saw you over and over capturing the chaos of my life

I puzzled at how insensitive you had become that you couldn't notice the chaos going on but each clicked seem to be the peace in my chaos.

I felt joy thinking of capturing life with you.

Each light pierced my fear and gave me courage.

Courage to breakthrough what seemed like a mini scandal

I don't know if it was the 20th flash that made me fall in love with you

but thank you for rewriting my destiny

thank you for letting the cup pass over me 

thank you for letting Gods will be done

thank you for proving me right that love at first sight doesn't exist.

Yes,i do

I now declare you husband and wife.

With that being written

This is Dimensionsofgold and my name is

Emediong.

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