Dimensionsofgold

I'm not even here to answer that question because honestly it is none of my business if you decide to and it is none of yours if I decide to. So just drink water and continue reading. I'm just here to paraphrase the question because really it is often if not always directed to the women like somehow they slept with themselves. Does having sex on the first date make me a hoe?...wrong question Does having sex on the first date make us hoes?..correct Society blah blah blah, double standards rubbish. If women can be hoes then what is wrong with men being described as hoes. It's so annoying that these same guys when they give their perfectly scripted useless reason on why a woman who has had sex on the first date should be described as a hoe, they go on and on about values and dignity...like shut the hell up. Values and dignity go both ways. You can't be thinking because I have slept with you I have lost my dignity before you  and the world at large while to me...

I will never understand when some guys say they do not know how to communicate well and for some unknown reasons some girls accept it.How does he not know the basics of a relationship and yet wants to be in one. The annoying part;he keeps chanting he is trying alot in the relationship and as the memory verse goes''women benefit more''instead of working on himself. Let me play this out because you love him,so he manages to convince you that the reason for his non chalant attitude in this relationship is due to his poor communicating skills that he has no power over because  (A)he was born that way (B)his father or mother doesn't communicate well so it is inherited Now,you love him and he tries to convince you while doing the bare minimum so he manipulates you into making excuses for him. Don't you get it!when he manipulates you,you make excuses for him,justify those excuses with the satisfaction you have gotten from him doing absolutely what a normal hum...

Why do most guys feel women are complicated when in the real sense there is just no balance in their relationship. Why do they feel instead of working things out and listening to what the girl even has to say at least to have a common ground, they bail out with the "you are so complicated"talk. Why won't you see her as a complication' when she is going so hard for you and you are doing the bare minimum but still expect praises from her for doing what you are supposed to do. Why won't you see her as complication when somewhere along the line you loosed interest in her and instead of addressing the issue,you become selfish and satisfy your greed outside and when she speaks up out of anger..you say she never understands you. Why won't you see her as a complication when you didn't go for your level and for some unknown reasons you want her to lower her standards.If she doesn't,she becomes a proud girl. I would never understand those who say women s...

I'm yet to decide if the love didn't fit or it was just too much but can love ever be too much?? The one time i had to shoot my shot without realizing the bullet only scratched him and was gently waiting to backfire.Story of my life. So i thought this love had finally come in my size because at first everything seemed to be in the right proportion.The attention and what have you so i was lost in my fantasies that had come to life and didn't really notice when most of the things he did had become too much.Oh,well:i did but i kinda felt it was still cute until i started choking so bad that i needed help.Trust me,when i met this love i was new because the old me will opt out of any relationship at the first quarel or when i feel any negative vibe or because i just wanted to.It was easy cause i met people daily so going through people phase was a norm. When i met this love,i thought it was just some random phase again but somehow i decided to be serious even when love wa...

Once i had a conversation with someone and somehow it evolved into me describing my boyfriend that never existed,he paused me;laughed and said"you are actually describing someone that doesn't exist" and as usual,he went on to advise me that i shouldn't have a type rather i should just go with whoever comes.Thats a pretty good advice for some people. For the longest time,i felt i should love unconditionally and also get an unconditional love in return and you know i tried that but i'm more of a conditioned loving kind of person.The reason you need a type is not so you fit a particular person in the box you have created because really no one person can actually be your type,but to avoid meeting the same waves of people all because you are going with the flow.Yes,you need a type so you can say no to what will end badly rather than take a chance.The devil is working day and night,you can't take a chance with your destiny. Your type comes from your personality ...

Self love:regard for ones well being and happiness. There are two sides to everything but i guess self love happens to just have 4.One side is the victim,the other side is complications while the remaining two sides shares fear.Everyone is preaching self love when the other person  is at rock bottom or let me rephrase;we blame the people who are at rock bottom or something close for not loving themselves enough.By the way, amidst our self love preaching we are still not loving ourselves. Moreover,it is easier to say people are not giving themselves the kind of love they deserve when you are on the other side of the coin because to be on the side of complications is better than being a victim. I feel most people who think they love themselves a lot are actually on the level of complications.Trust me,complications love themselves but still feel a slight emptiness the self love journey they embarked on isn't filling. Maybe i do not understand what self love really mean or...

Someone just called me her sister and I'm like;really. We have been through ups and downs and in my wildest dream I never thought she will still call me her sister  which brings me to todays topic: Love. I love"love"..yea. Its the most beautiful feeling in the world especially if you are someone who loves with their whole heart and then; finds some one who can contain all the love you have to offer. which is what I like and dislike about myself ;I can't half love anyone. If I have feelings for you its starting from 100 and I have tried severally to cut it down but I end up punishing myself in the process. If you are like me you are going to find true love one day but before that day you might go through a whole lot. If you are told you are too much or too intense take it as a red flag and leave It will hurt but just know, they were never meant to hold you and all you can offer so don't let any one shrink you. How do you know he or she is the one? truth is: o...