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SELF LOVE??? NAH,TRUE LOVE


Self love:regard for ones well being and happiness.
There are two sides to everything but i guess self love happens to just have 4.One side is the victim,the other side is complications while the remaining two sides shares fear.Everyone is preaching self love when the other person  is at rock bottom or let me rephrase;we blame the people who are at rock bottom or something close for not loving themselves enough.By the way, amidst our self love preaching we are still not loving ourselves.
Moreover,it is easier to say people are not giving themselves the kind of love they deserve when you are on the other side of the coin because to be on the side of complications is better than being a victim.
I feel most people who think they love themselves a lot are actually on the level of complications.Trust me,complications love themselves but still feel a slight emptiness the self love journey they embarked on isn't filling.
Maybe i do not understand what self love really mean or i have a falsified perception about love but i believe self love doesn't stand on its own
Self love is a plant that needs to grow
self love needs water and nutrient
self love needs sunshine
self love needs someone to remove the weeds around it
and this plant on its own cannot do all these
Self love needs help

 Some people just need a little love from others while the rest needs desperate love.Even though on most scenarios,this may not be achieved..NEEDING SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU SHOULDN'T BE SEEN AS WEAKNESS.This is the reason why the self love we are walking towards seems to be running quite fast.

 We have hidden what love really means,captured the moments we feel should be termed as love, applied filters on it and then presented it to the world as to what love should look like, after all; our pictures with filters look way better.
The need for love,the real meaning of love has no connection with weakness.
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  1. Elizabeth Omolafe2 June 2018 at 20:48

    Wow sis! This resonated with me so much. I too blog about developing self love and it's so easy to preach yet way harder to feel and practice. Sharing and advising is great but to live it fully is my goal, and yes, it is complicated. Keep up the great work!

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