Boundaries

Once i had a conversation with someone and somehow it evolved into me describing my boyfriend that never existed,he paused me;laughed and said"you are actually describing someone that doesn't exist" and as usual,he went on to advise me that i shouldn't have a type rather i should just go with whoever comes.Thats a pretty good advice for some people.
For the longest time,i felt i should love unconditionally and also get an unconditional love in return and you know i tried that but i'm more of a conditioned loving kind of person.The reason you need a type is not so you fit a particular person in the box you have created because really no one person can actually be your type,but to avoid meeting the same waves of people all because you are going with the flow.Yes,you need a type so you can say no to what will end badly rather than take a chance.The devil is working day and night,you can't take a chance with your destiny.
Your type comes from your personality
Your type comes from your upbringing
Your type comes from what you believe is right
You can't be trying to figure out who you are and what you want in life and be with someone who needs you not to help them with theirs but to do all the work,no hun...I'm a work in progress,you can't slow me down because i have a set goal.You can't take my focus away from what God is doing in my life,if you want unconditional love,Jesus will never die again.
Yes babe,i know you love him/her but you can't just give them all the love because they don't understand the kind of love you are offering and you will suffer because they are at the receiving end ..You need some boundaries.
Yes,i love you but you are not my priority because my children are waiting for me in the future and the world has evolved so much.I owe them their comfort because i will give birth to them so i can't let you distract me.
Yes i love you,fine...if we get married but if we don't,i should suffer my poor husband with the emotional trauma you have caused me???
I'm trying to build an empire for the people who get loans so i won't beg,i won't let you be the reason i have headache,because i will need to sleep and that is time wasted.
You need a type so you can distance yourself from issues rather than take on their problems as yours.You can't tell any cat or dog that their problems are yours too.If you need to carry on an extra baggage in addition to yours,uncle and aunty select it well.Don't let other peoples problem weigh you down.
Problems in relationship,friendship or any ship as you may isn't necessarily because the same people kept appearing in different shades of makeup but because you had no boundary so they could come in and leave at their own pace.You got to let some people know you are a royal priesthood,as such they cannot mess with your emotions because you need it to make right decisions.
You need to wait at the door and tell those destiny setbacks all in the name of love MMmm mmm..not today,not tomorrow,not ever.
You cannot be a ride or die when you know you are riding to your death..board another train,bike,keke or anything that can transport you back to your house.
Boundaries and conditions will make you lonely but without drama.
You need a type,you need boundaries and yes,Jesus loves us unconditionally so you need conditions for your love.