Do we really need labels in a relationship.

One of the frustrating things in starting a new relationship is the ''what are we question''.I read a post where the writer said before you ask the ''what are we question''..give it time,but how long should it be before you ask.For me except you can live with unnecessary memories then ask the first week you guys met.In one week you can have sex with the person,on the first day you can kiss the person.In one week you can make your life revolve around him or her so unless you can bear the pain when he says something you didn't expect as to what you thought you would be to him..then ask him on time so you won't be sending some kinds of messages and the other party will be wondering what is happening.

If you ask early and he says you are just friends...fine,you know you don't have to stress about him.If he says he just wants to enjoy the moment..cool,enjoy the moment as much as you can after all no one is accountable for anyone or back out.My point exactly,a guy knows when he wants to date so does girls so why not table it out from the beginning other than keep one party in suspense.

Being in a relationship is a full time job,so it is not your place to get anyone to be committed.I don't understand when people say we need time...what is the time for.Wanting to know his or her intention is not pressure,if someone decides to keep distant because you asked, then bye.

 The truth is if we don't know what we are doing with the guy or name it,we get uncomfortable.See,if you don't know what your place is you will worry over things you shouldn't and you will either be somewhere between  relationship and breakup or a couple and just friends or just friends and those with benefits.Please don't waste peoples time let us know our place so we won't worry if you are dead or alive.

Labels in a relationship doesn't guarantee that it will last but you will have some kind of confidence and self respect,you will know if to show off or not,argue over a picture or not,behave as the girlfriend or not.The label doesn't necessarily have to be boyfriend or girlfriend,it has to be something you are comfortable with or you just bail out.


But as i said from the beginning if you can bear memories and behave as if nothing happened when a guy you felt would be useful to you tells you after months of hanging out and the whole fun thing that he has no intention of going farther than what it is then go with the flow.So my advice to those who are in the middle of being in a relationship and friends,if you know you can bear it when he says there is nothing more to it, then enjoy but if you can't ask him what is going on and bail out, if you can't continue.Stop performing girlfriend duties in a relationship that does not exist.