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To Ghost or Nah.

So recently, i came across an article that talked about "ghosting".Apparently in their words ghosting refers to the act of suddenly leasing all communication with a person without any prior notice to them.
This person could be a friend or someone  you were dating.In a way,the ghostee hopes the other party will get the hint and move on.The person cease to exist to you and vice versa.It is also known  as slow fade.

 I had to ask myself if i am a member of this ghosting committee and without doubt,off course i am....way before i knew such term existed. In fact everyone is a victim and a member of this group.But why do i prefer to cut someone off gradually without communicating the issue..well at that point there is really nothing to discuss.I hate being drained and sometimes i meet people who in their minds they feel will become close to me but on my side am pretty sure a ghost season is around the corner.

 Once i have identified a toxic relationship...i will ghost the person.Taking time to explain to this person is futile because my mind is already made up.I have been ghosted and a ghostee too.Some people need this tag"some one i used to know".

 Social media has made it more easier to ghost people....
Hello,how are you
am fine,you
am good
so,what is your name

 Really guys, my name is right before you.Common sense requires before you start a conversation with someone you have never met before, you should do a background check and on social media the only background check is the person's profile.If anybody starts asking your name and school when its on your profile..just ghost the person.Some one will now ask 'what of those that uses their nicknames' and do not indicate their school...well,,if you see a name on my profile and you feel it is your right to assume it is my nick name then the case is settled, i want you to know me  by my nick name and for those that will ask why..it is because i want it that way and the school part..you have not seen it..that is because i don't want it there.

 The people that marvel me are those that feel simply because i have sent you a request or accepted your's, we are now under some sort of non existed rule to message each other. If i send you a message,you are under no obligation to reply if you do not want to as well as when anyone sends me a message.It is not your right for me to reply you.They even make unnecessary threats like'You will need me in this life' and you will look for husband..

 Hey boo and bae,if God has placed you to help me there is nothing you can do about it,and if you do not want to, don't forget it was God who placed you there so he can replace you.This applies to me too although i am not a fan of unnecessary threat.And for those husbands threat....Get yourself a life,if you are my husband...you are.I don't need to engage in unnecessary conversations to prove me a good wife or my humility.

 Guys ghost anyone who is not giving you peace.It is your right.
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